In my vaunted opinion…

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During courtroom dramas, we are familiar with expert witnesses. People who are called to give their expert opinion, most usually on something medical or technical. I know a chap who makes his living as an expert witness on road collisions.

I can’t imagine a court case where I would be called for my opinion. Indeed, I am not sure if I have any expert opinions on anything.  My greatest experience in life is show business and on this subject I would say that I am - at best -  hazy.

During this lockdown that no one could ever have envisaged, just getting through each day is becoming a feat of endurance. Our phones serve as a useful distraction but ultimately they are part of the problem as we waste our time in frivolous pursuits which are likely only to add to our sense of despair.

Like yours, my phone pings (or vibrates) all day – mostly with notifications of a new meme or video which might be a waste of time viewing but there is only way to find out and spirits often dampen even further.

Am I alone in allocating black marks next to contacts for sharing insufficiently funny stuff and wasting my precious time?

Yesterday, I got a flurry of notifications about my son and I was reminded perfectly of my limited expertise in show business.

At the time I had never heard of Lip Sync Battle and aside from the $10k fee that Tom was allocating to The Brothers Trust, I couldn’t really see an upside.

I have no musical bent at all and I tend to be highly cynical about our vaunted music industry and its impact on culture and in particular on our young people. Channel surfing a few days ago, I happened to catch a gruesome trailer for a TV show called something like, Teen Mums and my spirits plummeted. I venture that teenage pregnancy is not a problem very often encountered by the highly paid executives of MTV who make this show.

Furthermore, I am allergic to karaoke or anything that resembles it and this was a further reason against.

Tom was in LA and missing home.

I am vague on the timings here but I think he had appeared in Civil War and had made Homecoming but it had yet to be released.

And so, he doesn’t need to do anything as stressful as this Lip Sync Battle and this was before he told me that Rhianna was to be his target. I had heard of Rhianna but I needed to Google the song and you can imagine my reaction.

Tom was tired. The rehearsals were arduous and he was under some considerable pressure  - as was I at the time, on the golf course and between a soft 7 or a hard 8.

I listened to my son and his very understandable concerns. I put my 7 iron back in my bag, figuring that is easier to hit something hard.

He had agreed to the show and he didn’t want to let anyone down.

His ‘people’ in LA were all agreed that it was a good thing to do – and the same goes for the producers of the show.

But I don’t give a stuff about his ‘people’ or these producers – and so I did something I have never done before in Tom’s short but already long career.

His people might know more than me about show business (and note my use of the word, might). But I know more than all of them about life. I am older than them and I have been round the block a few times and now it was time for them to reckon with me and…

….my executive decision.

“Don’t do it, Tom. Walk away man, seriously.”

‘But Dad, it’s all scheduled.’

“So what? Let em find someone else. You're in  LA, right. The place is stuffed with wannabes, happy to pull on a bra and suspenders.”

I don’t know how long this sage advice was ever dwelt on or mulled over.

And of course, we all know the outcome.

Tom did not take the option bravely laid out for him by his dad.

He did the show and he duly won. To date, it is the highest viewed episode of all time – and people regularly tell me that it is their favourite thing that Tom has ever done – which must be galling for the producers at Marvel to read. (I am confident that they don't read this blog btw).

Unanimously, Tom’s appearance was a huge success. His dance training surprising everyone to create a resounding hit – and from time to time, even I have been known to add to the YT views of the clip and I smile broadly whenever I do.

And so, thank goodness he didn’t listen to me. I suppose I should be flattered that he still ever seeks out my advice – albeit rarely - and always with a waiver that he can ignore whatever pearl I have for him.

And very wise, he is, too.

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Comments welcome of when with the best of intentions, you have profoundly called something wrong. Surely, no one can beat me?

 

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60 Comments

  1. greta April 1, 2020
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    this is wonderfully written!! its so amazing to hear other’s opinions on tom’s lip sync battle!!

    • Ingrid April 1, 2020
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      Tom,s lip sync battle is one of the things that always makes my daughter laugh especially the last couple of weeks.so thank you Tom for not listening to your father (sorry Dominic)he really nailed that performance.

    • Estefanie April 1, 2020
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      Like it was said before, a parents advice is always well received by their children, but one gets to a certain time in their life that you have to grow up and make decisions on your own. Tom and you Dom made a perfect example of that.
      Love your blogs! Keep them coming 🙂

    • Tom Holland fab April 1, 2020
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      I’m a big fan of Tom and I laugh really hard every time I see this lip sync battle but I don’t like it I don’t know if you get what I mean but it’s kinda weird and that’s what I wanted to say:) ps. Can you please say thank you to Tom for liking my post (@_multi.x.fandom.x on ig)

    • Sara April 1, 2020
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      He completely nailed this performance. I’ve watched it many, many times and it’s absolutely fantastic. Pleased he didn’t listen to you and wonderfully generous to donate the fee to your charity. Please keep writing your blog posts. They’re a refreshing read

      • Jessica April 3, 2020
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        It was a very good performance. I tend to only give out opinions to my husband or kids. They rarely listen 🙂 but kudos to you for looking out for your son. We only want what is best for our babies.

    • Izabel April 1, 2020
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      My reply is always the same. I knew of Tom from the Marvel world but he wasn’t really on my radar until I saw this. Tom The Boy becomes Tom THE MAN because it takes big brass monkey balls to pull this off. He commanded that stage. This is the reason I went back to the begining, and discovered that Tom is more than Spiderman (as much as I love him in that role). You might of had the wrong call on this one but given how “real” your family is (and I would love to be your weird and nerdy distant cousin) you got alot more right than wrong.

  2. Madeleine April 1, 2020
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    great story! Thank you.Im studying for my bacaloreate at the moment,so thanks for the advice and will set my phone aside.

  3. Grace April 1, 2020
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    A fathers advice is one of the most important things in the world it may not always be right but it shows you care

  4. Anna Olsen April 1, 2020
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    You know you did something right when your movie star son calls his dad to ask for advice. Tom is very talented with his movie career. But I think you’ve personally raised a nice a young man who values and loves his family. And that’s maybe the top reason I think Tom is so awesome.

    • Michaela April 1, 2020
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      Couldn’t have said it better myself! On top of the movies he’s been in there are SO many other reasons to be such a huge fan of Tom and the Holland family!

    • Rosell April 1, 2020
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      Fue una muy buena batalla, bien ganada por Tom, soy de Perú y no pude ver el programa en su momento, pero lo llegué a ver en Youtube y me pareció genial.

  5. María Eugenia Heredia April 1, 2020
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    Its all said. But this performance shows Tom is the example of non-toxic masculinity. If i ever meet him, id rather be able to tell him this than a picture. Amazing, respectful and humble.

  6. K April 1, 2020
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    I love your blogs !! Very interesting. I like how you prepared the reader for your opinion but then completely turned it around, with actually finishing it off by the outcome of the story. I awaited for something to justify the opinion, but you actually sort of went against your opinion prior, and opened something new – that’s a nice touch!! (unless I misunderstood haha) In regards to the topic, perhaps one positive thing about show-biz is that it gives your commercial success, it’s good for Tom in the sense of giving him publicity and commercial recognition, aside from movies. After all, as horrible as it sounds, he’s now a product of Hollywood, but one may ensure that this status doesn’t get abused!! Show-business is also a good platform for representation, you can represent a person of race, sexual preference, nationality, culture, disability etc. in this case, Tom represents the Hollywood actor, but also the ordinary boy, who can make it big in the industry. i think the reason he is so like-able is the fact that he is so normal, yet so unique. Not a Leonardo or a Tom Cruise, but a Tom who is special in his own way!! Thank you for him and these blogs!! They are very interesting and insightful !!

  7. Lorraine April 1, 2020
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    Great blog Dom. I’m afraid I’m not writing to fill you in on any anecdote to a specific time I was wrong. There have been many but I’m afraid my story telling would not be up to scratch. I do feel that young people nowadays(my daughter also 23) are very confident in their own abilities and feel they can take on the world much more than me at that age. Tom’s performance was outstanding in LSB and I’m sure he continued not only for his own pride but for The Brothers Trust too. Sometimes it just takes a word from dad or mum to solidify an intention to carry on. I listened to the podcast with Sam and although Tom interruped for cooking advice, I thought the nicest part was when you said bye and love you and he responded immediately with the saying it too, and so naturally. We may be wrong on many occasions, we can sometimes get it just right!

  8. Reqgan April 1, 2020
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    I saw the lip sync battle once, and though my mom didn’t like it ‘cause of how he was dressed, we both agreed that his dancing was AMAZING! Your family seams very connected, and y’all are special in that way. Y’all are very lucky to have each other. You have a son willing to ask for your help, and Tom has a dad he can ask for help. It’s really beautiful how y’all care about each other.

  9. Ilona Andersen April 1, 2020
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    It is so great that you were there to tell Tom that he didn’t need to do the performance. It is always reassuring to hear someone say, that you still have the option to refuse. Especially if this someone is your BELOVED dad. Then in the end, you might end up completely ignore the option, but at least it was there.

  10. lexi April 1, 2020
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    This is so touching. Dom is a good dad. Although Tom didn’t listen to his dad at the time for his dream, he did.
    I am an 18-year-old girl from Malaysia. I often worry about my dreams because my dreams happen to be disliked by my parents. I will realize them regardless of their parents’ opposition. Everyone around the world, for the dream And work hard for life!
    -Using google translate, I am still learning English.

  11. Becca Ackerman April 1, 2020
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    Not me, but I remember when DVD’s first came out my Dad said that they would never catch on!

  12. Val April 1, 2020
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    I’ve watched Tom’s battle over 100 times. What an amazing performance!! Totally slayed it. #respect

  13. Aleksandar April 1, 2020
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    Giving out advice, no matter the outcome, is never a bad thing to do. It may not have been your intention but you paved a way which gave Tom the opportunity to question the information he gets. Going against the advice of a father, or loved one, is not easy but, in this case, lead to personal growth. Take it as good experience. 🙂

  14. Soph Garvey April 1, 2020
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    as soon as I saw the picture at the top I laughed and knew what I was expecting! I can’t believe that you where against it . A bunch of experiences where my parents have told me not to do something and I’ve done it anyway but nothing beats yours

  15. napassorn April 1, 2020
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    this post makes me very emotional! Thank you for writing Dom!

    If I were you, I think I would give the same advice, too.. like everyone else said here, it is very reassuring when people who really knows you tell you how it’s ok to not do things you don’t want to do! I think I understand why Tom still asks for your opinion.

    I hope you all are well! please keep the spirit up as you are already doing 🙂

    p.s. the episode literally makes my mum a tom’s fan! (we constantly go back to watch it every now and then)

  16. Claire C April 1, 2020
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    I always love your honesty Dom! On this particular venture I have to say I’m very glad that Tom didn’t listen to his dad, and gave us that amazing performance! It always brings a smile to my face and I can’t help but watch it whenever it appears in my YouTube feed.
    I’m guilty of giving myself the worst advice way too often. In the spirit of honesty… I’m an anxious person with a nervous disposition. Suffice to say I’m not one to throw myself into adventures and regularly talk myself out of things. Then I usually end up just feeling annoyed and sad about missed opportunities. Well, not always… because I’m totally content with my decision NOT to launch myself out of an aeroplane at 10,000 feet! But in future I should probably seek advice from others rather than listen to myself, and find my own lip sync battle 🙂
    Loving the regular blogs and podcasts by the way – so thank you, and please keep them coming!

  17. Naomi April 1, 2020
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    This story is a perfect example of what a wonderful family you have and it really is a compliment on how well you and your wife have brought up your children! I think not only Tom‘s success but also seeing how loving all family members interact with each other and also with others is inspiring and can be a spark of hope for anyone who had to grow up in difficult family situations. Seeing all of you gives me hope that it is possible to start a happy and functioning family of my own… so thank you for sharing insights and stories of your life!

  18. Pamela April 1, 2020
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    Fascistic blog! Yes, Tom did an amazing job on Lip Sync Battles and he has mentioned in interviews how stressful it really was for him. The fact that he called his dad for advice really shows what a close knit family you are!! Tom is a wonderful actor! I’m looking forward to seeing his movie Cherry! On a side note, I noticed you finished jigsaw wars! We started one puzzle, dog ate a piece. Started a new one, daughter’s fiancé is colorblind so he couldn’t distinguish the colors so, started a third one. That’s still a work in progress. My granddaughter wanted in on the action so we are working on another with her! I just hope my back makes it !!

  19. Jess April 1, 2020
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    I remember seeing Tom’s performance for the first time. My sister called me to see it. The performance started with the song “Singing in the Rain” and I thought that it was quite expected. But when the show took a whole new turn, it took me a second to realise that it was Tom who was also doing the second part. It was extremely funny to watch and to this day we laugh about it!
    It was nice to hear your opinion before and after Lip Sync Battle.
    Hope you and your family are doing well. Stay safe.

  20. Kim Mauger April 1, 2020
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    I’m glad he didn’t listen to your advice although I see why you suggested it. I can never hear that song without thinking of Tom and how he blew everyone’s mind. I totally loved his performance as do many. And to think the world could have been deprived of this brilliance! Hope you are all hanging in there. A silver lining is the extra blogs and podcasts from you, so thank you

  21. Alissa April 1, 2020
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    You did a good job on advising Tom of what he could do but at the end of the day he needs to make a decision for himself. Atleast you’ve given Tom the support of a father, we still need to seek advise to our parents because we know that you know what’s best for us and it is up to us if we will follow them to be better or worse. Love you Hollands!

  22. Lily April 1, 2020
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    Ha! Oh that picture. Do you think Tom ever regrets not taking your advice? He’s definitely more brave than my kids, I’ll give him that. None of them could have done what he did. Then again, none of my kids are in the show business field. I guess you have to be able to make fun of yourself. It’s a good quality to have. To answer your question, I’ve been wrong about a lot of things, I’m sure. But most of the advice I remember giving is the stuff I was right about. Also, my kids usually listen to my advice (and maybe that’s a bad thing), but then again, I don’t have a viral video as proof for when my kids don’t listen to me. So maybe they never listen to me at all. But the advice I’m usually asked about is dating, laundry, medicine, finances, and school. Nothing exciting like a Lip-Sync battle! Hope all is well with you. Thanks for another fun blog. Hang in there with this isolation situation.
    -Lily

  23. Anna April 1, 2020
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    I’m really interested in your blog, Domenic. Thanks to this quarantine I can spend much more time reading and I think it is one of its few positive sides. Anyhow, thanks for sharing your family moments, in many things I see mine in yours.
    I care about my mother’s opinion and i tend to follow her advice. However, sometimes it happens that we do not fully agree, even just for a personal presentiment, and therefore i decide to do something else. I guess it was difficult for Tom to decide not to listen to you, especially in a situation where giving up would have been the easiest choice. From a daughter’s point of view, I can tell you that not listening to a parent is almost more difficult than deciding to do it even knowing that it may not be the right thing to do.
    Anyway, thank you again for sharing a piece of your life and to be a distraction in this difficult times.
    P.s. Sorry if there are any mistakes. English is not my first language.

  24. Michelle S April 1, 2020
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    Dom
    I read an article some time ago about a man with serious health issues & how he was basically losing hope at getting better until he somehow ran across the LSB with Tom . As far as I can remember, he said it encouraged him so much to see Tom not only be able to take on that crazy challenge of putting himself in such a seemingly uncomfortable position of dressing the part , but then actually nailing the routine was incredible for him to watch ! Tom’s tenacity spurred him on to work harder on his health .
    That quality paired together with the fact he seemingly values your thoughts on matters is such a winning combo .
    Keep up the good work

  25. Anna April 1, 2020
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    I’m really interested in your blog, Domenic. Thanks to this quarantine I can spend much more time reading and I think it is one of its few positive sides. Anyhow, thanks for sharing your family moments, in many things I see mine in yours.
    I care about my mother’s opinion and i tend to follow her advice. However, sometimes it happens that we do not fully agree, even just for a personal presentiment, and therefore i decide to do something else. I guess it was difficult for Tom to decide not to listen to you, especially in a situation where giving up would have been the easiest choice. From a daughter’s point of view, I can tell you that not listening to a parent is almost more difficult than deciding to do it even knowing that it may not be the right thing to do.
    Anyway, thank you again for sharing a piece of your life and to be a distraction in this difficult times.
    P.s. Sorry if there are any mistakes. English is not my first language.

  26. Sydnee Coleman April 1, 2020
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    It nice to see the background that went it to that performance. I bet it nice to know that even with Tom getting out there, he still comes to you for advice. It reminds me, of my dad and I. In situations like these, Dads give the best advice, not that we listen to it.

  27. Audrey April 1, 2020
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    Dom,

    The advice you gave Tom was from a father who cared more about his son’s well being than his acting career. Bravo to you and of course BRAVO to Tom for sucking it up and doing what he said he would. A trait many young people lack these days is the old “do what you said you would”.
    As far as being off base on a call… I recently flew to Tampa to coach a kid in preparation for the World Championship. I flew in3/10 and reassured him it was all going to happen. 3/11…cancelled. Oh well…
    More reading material please.
    Be safe!

  28. Márcia Malaquias April 1, 2020
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    “I love old musical movies and dance and Tom made a great interpretation” Singing in the Rain “is a talented guy, I will tell you a secret I hate the spiderman movies I am afraid of spiders, my 2 brothers love the Spiderman movies from Tobey and I remember them calling me to watch and actually never watching, (watching only Tom Spiderman) I confess that when the Spiderman appeared in the Avengers I even mumbled in the cinema “Peter Park comes to disturb the Super Heroes, there last year in april 2019 excited about the new Avengers movie i started researching about each character in real life and Tom charmed me for being different from all Hollywood celebrities and I realized something very strong about him that is the family, in an interview everywhere I see that Tom takes his family in his heart and there is no way not to fall in love with the Holland family, whoever loves Tom will certainly hug his family and even the dog Tessa, finally I started to follow r Tom on Instagram May 2 019 and I am here enjoying the thoughts of Mr. Dom, I love this interaction and love between father and son and I hope that Tom will always look for him to talk, May God bless his whole family, thank you very much

    P.S: My super favorite hero is Thor, and I love the Peter Parker version of Tom, I hate and I dread spiders

  29. Beth April 1, 2020
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    I have to say that Tom’s lip sync battle is one of th greatest of all time. My art teacher is a Marvel fan and loves lip sync battle so it often comes up in conversation. Obviously I don’t know any celebrities in person but I can’t think of anyone else who would dare to do what Tom did- it was just brilliant. But he wouldn’t have just ignored your advice… maybe. Mum and Dad always give me advice against things I do- sometimes they’re right sometimes they’re wrong and vice-versa. I always take into account what they say, but at the end of the day, our decisions are life choices and we make millions of them.
    Btw have almost finished #jigsawwars but it’s taking longer then anticipated. I don’t have social media so I am unable to share it. Oh well it’s the thought that counts 🙂

    • Beth April 2, 2020
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      Also I listened to your podcast earlier- you aren’t the only one who is injured I think I just made the impossible possible by spraining my ankle- whilst sitting- doing the jigsaw

  30. Paul April 2, 2020
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    Just keep giving that sage advice.

  31. LizR April 2, 2020
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    Okay, but you know how often you (not you in particular, but parents in general) give your kids advice, and they do the opposite? It looks to me like you made EXACTLY the right call. I mean, if you had said, yeah, you really should do this, isn’t there the chance Tom might have said you know, I’m kind of sick of everyone telling me what I should do, so I’m going to do the opposite?

    By telling him he didn’t need to do what everyone else was telling him would be best, you helped him see that he had the option of making his own choice, and that’s exactly what he did – not because you or anyone else told him what he should or shouldn’t do. You gave him an out, which probably allowed him to see more clearly what he really wanted. Great parenting right there!

    You’re welcome .

    • LizR April 2, 2020
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      Sorry, the last part of my comment (an emoji) didn’t show to indicate that my “you’re welcome” was meant in a humorous way, and now it looks kind of rude, heheh.

      I’ll try again: You’re welcome, lol!

      Haha. It’s all about the tone…

  32. Mia April 2, 2020
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    I would just like to say thank you to Tom for not listening to you because that video is literally my religion, tot he point where i know the whole dance routine and actions. Secondly, you know you’ve done something right when your movie star son calls you first for advice. I would also like to thank you Dom for taking the time to share your thoughts and give a small insight into your life and taking my mind off of all the issues in the world at the moment. I recently finished a puzzle and sent it to The Brothers Trust and even you and your family encouraging people at home to do this and be part of it takes all our minds off of the world and focused on the puzzle and not the screens and the news. Do you, Sam and Tom still have the symptoms, if not then i’m glad your better now but if so then i hope you get better.
    Thank you 🙂

  33. Mia April 2, 2020
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    LOST CITY OF Z SPOILERS IN THIS COMMENT
    Honestly i think you are a fantastic dad, I am 14 and i find it hard to be stuck inside all day everyday with my older sister, i am using this time to catch up on whats going on in your world, i am also re-reading your book ‘Eclipsed’ because it is such a fantastic book, it makes me laugh and it makes me cry, as you can imaging i am a big fan of Tom’s and seeing how he’s grown and seeing the photos in the book bring me to tears (happy tears) because i am so thankful to be growing up in the ‘young Tom Holland’ time period. I watched ‘The lost city of Z’ with my mum last night and as it is a fantastic film i was left in tears but i was mainly unsatisfied as to what happened, there is no certainty of what happened tot he characters Jack and Percy. I think Tom was fantastic in this film and me being such a big fan of his i was sitting there in complete daze while my mum was sitting there probably questioning me and why i love this little boy from Kingston.

  34. Natally April 2, 2020
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    Honestly, I just saw Tom’s pic as Rihanna and immediately clicked because I wanted to see your opinion about it. I like to read other people’s comments as well before putting my input and I agree with a lot of them. One mentioned how Tom has been raised. You and Mrs. Holland have raised him well to ask you if it was alright. It shows how he is still grounded and has not let the fame get to him. Another mentioned about displaying masculinity. Which Tom showed just because he’s a man, doesn’t mean you have to act all macho and tough and just let loose for a bit.

    Here’s my input: I loved the performance because I never seen a guy make moves like he did. I did not even know he could dance so well. Which led me to watch some YouTube videos of Tom in Billy Elliot and makes me with I was british to see that musical. He’s a great actor, guy, and he shows people what it’s like to handle fame because of you and his mom. We are happy he didn’t listen as it showed many things about him. I am also sorry he didn’t listen to you, but it turned out for the best 🙂

  35. Danielle Abrahams April 2, 2020
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    I am a huge fan of Tom and your whole family. You have all achieved great things! I always smile at this performance, aside from the comedic aspect it is a very well executed routine showing his dance and performance talent. I do feel bad whenever he is asked about the performance in interviews however; perhaps I am imagining things but I get the impression he is embarrassed and is sick of talking about it! Hope you are all looking after yourself in this difficult time. From a fellow Brit

  36. Aimee April 2, 2020
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    As many others have said, this blog post shows the high value that you & your wife place on family & because of that, your boys value your opinion, whether they take it or not. So much of that is lacking in today’s world and it’s refreshing to see & read about…normal families. I’ve told my teen daughters that it’s so nice to see a respectful young man (your Tom) in interviews. (My word, I sound old saying that!) I love seeing the jigsaw wars your charity is doing as it promotes togetherness, I tear up when I read how the money is used and I love hearing you with your son Sam in your podcasts because you’re having fun together. (I’m catching up during quarantine life!) Thank you!

  37. Mia April 3, 2020
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    As usual your blog was great! I really just want to thank you for giving everyone hope and taking the focus off of the world right now, i always look forward to see what you have to share with us. Your stories as well as the way you tell them are always very interesting. I too enjoy writing and i hope to have that with me in my future, i have written a few novels but not had anyone read them to see if it is readable or going to be successful, i also want to wait till i’m older because i’m only 14 and i don’t think people will see how passionate and skillful i am because i am only so young.

  38. M. April 3, 2020
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    Thanks for the fun post. At the very end you asked, “…when with the best of intentions, you profoundly called something wrong”. Well boy did I advise my son wrong and I wish he wouldn’t have listened to me, but unfortunately he did. It was when Virtual Reality met Reality.
    So a couple of years ago I was trying to be a fun mom and I spontaneously took my kids to one of those VR (Virtual Reality) places where they play a video game. I had never been to one before (and I’ve never been back since so I hope I’m explaining it right). The worker explained how it works. My son was to stand in the center of this square sectioned off area and they put this Mask thing over his eyes. Well this Mask thing allowed my son to not only play the video game, but to feel like he was really in it. It’s like in 3D. The mask was not only attached to his head, but it kind of went over his head like a bike helmet. And there was this cable attached to the center that extended up to the ceiling. I think it was kind of a safety feature so my son wouldn’t leave the square. The employee carefully explained how it all worked and cautioned me and my kids not to shout things at him to do, because it could be dangerous. So let the game begin! So my other kids and I sat on the couch just a couple of feet outside of the safety square and watched my son. Honestly, I couldn’t have been more bored in my life. We watched the TV screens so we could see the game he was playing and then glance at my son as he wears the mask and feels like he is actually in the game. He turned a little here and there and moved his arms around but it didn’t look very exciting. Not to me anyway. After close to ten minutes of this it gets to the part where he is supposed to walk the plank. And when he gets to the end he is supposed to step off and it will feel like he jumped off a 10 story building. So my son is so slowly walking the virtual plank when an idea pops into my head. I wanted this experience to be more fun for my child, make it feel more real! So I yelled to my son, “Run and Jump!” “What?” he said. “It will make it more fun if you run down the plank and then jump. It will feel more real.” I said. He hesitated for a second but then decided that even though he couldn’t see me, he was going to trust mom and do what I said. So he started to run. It was at that second when I realized this was not going to end well and it was too late to tell him to stop! It was at that moment he ran to the end of the virtual plank and leapt into the air, out of the safety square, his mask that was attached to his head got ripped off him and dangled by the cable as he crashed hard! Half of him hit us on the couch and the other half, the floor! We were all in such shock, we could’t help but laugh hysterically! Then the employee came over and got mad at my daughter because he thought she was the who yelled! My daughter was so embarrassed by us that she left the building! My son didn’t get hurt too bad, just bruised his knee. Well after a million hugs and kisses and apologies I asked him if he would ever trust me again? He said, “Mom, I trust you, but not when I know you don’t know what you’re talking about.”

  39. Regina April 13, 2020
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    Back in college, when Netflix was on the rise, I, in all my wisdom of a seasoned 19 years, confidently predicted it wouldn’t last. It was just a fluke and Blockbuster would never go out of business. I was confident in this opinion for about a year and told it to anyone who would listen. Now, whenever I want to make bold predictions, I always remind myself of Netflix.

    • Kelli April 14, 2020
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      Do you think TikTok will last? I ask this as a college student now.

      • Dom April 14, 2020
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        what you mean like time? I’d say that time is here to stay – especially the 24 hour day, 7 day week…

        • Kelli April 14, 2020
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          TikTok is a social media platform where users create 15 second music videos of themselves lip synching to certain songs. It’s fairly popular among my age demographic in the US, but personally, I do not understand why it is so popular (no offense intended to any TikTok users out there).

  40. OtherMrsPuertoRicanB April 29, 2020
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    I loved this episode! Tom and Zendaya were both amazing in their gender bending. But to think that Dom Holland almost robbed us of that? LOL I wish people would stop mentioning it and asking him about it though. It’s a footnote on a still growing career.

    As far as calling something wrong, the jury is still out.

  41. Megan May 15, 2020
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    I realize this post is long after the fact, but it hit a note for me.

    I think sometimes we (myself, a friend, or a son) need to know that an alternative is acceptable. Feeling like you have a choice can be very liberating. You make the decision yourself, but how comforting to know that your loved ones will still support you if you change your mind.

    An example? For health reasons, doctors spoke very strongly against my husband and I having children because of the high risk to my well being. It was only after finding a doctor that was willing to pull together a specialized team, and support us whatever our decision, that we actually felt like we were making the choice ourselves instead of having it imposed on us.

    After much heartfelt considering, we don’t have any children. But we do have three adorable little dogs that help fill the void – I know you’re familiar with how much love they can share!

    Sorry for the length. Thanks for the blog. I look forward to many more reads.

    • Dom May 16, 2020
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      thank you Megan – and another upside is that dogs are always so easy to love all of the time – whereas, kids, less so!

  42. Bee May 28, 2020
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    I for one am somewhat glad that your son didn’t take your advice ion this specific thing. Yes, your son’s Lip Sync Battle is a couple years old now, I never saw it back then cause it doesn’t air in my county. But I must say that in the last couple months, it’s been my ‘go to’ youtube video to find a reason to smile(He smashed it completely!). Working during this pandemic in a supermarket has put my at breaking point at times. I once used to find joy in my writing and creating my stories. I thank you and your wife for having such an amazing child, and I thank your son for going through with it and giving such a brilliant performance.

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